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Perspective Shifts

Perspective shifts are just what they sound like. Often, when we’re stressed our ability to think and find creative solutions is hindered. Shifting our perspective toward something can open back up for us our sense of aliveness, engagement, and return to us our inherent ability to be responsible.

 

Here are a few perspective shifts you can make:

 

One of the biggest shifts you can make is from blame and criticism to curiosity and appreciation. While criticism is addictive and can feel enlivening, it is fed by adrenaline and comes at a cost. Science shows that a life full of appreciation is a healthier life. Criticism is so common in our culture that most of us don’t even realize we are being critical. That’s OK. Just choose to shift your mindset to appreciation.

 

Consider this: only 20% of American adults rated gratitude as a constructive and useful emotion, compared to 50% of Germans. 10% of Americans responded that they “regularly and often” experience the emotion of gratitude, as compared to 30% of Germans. (British Journal of Social Psychology 1988)

 

Shift from multi-tasking to solo tasking. Studies show that being “present” is a way of solo tasking with yourself or another person without thinking about anything other than the current moment, not even the past or future. When we are projecting out into the future or getting hung up on something from the past, so much information goes unnoticed. Remember, your central nervous system only has so much capacity so it is important to be aware of what is taking up most of the space within your system.

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Here’s ten ways you can build resilience into your day:

 

1) Pay attention to how you experience challenges. We often add to unpleasant moments in ways that make them even more difficult. Note how your body feels, your emotions, and where your thoughts go. Are you projecting difficulty years into the future? Are you caught up in regret or resentment? Also, begin to separate your perspective (This shouldn’t be! Nothing ever changes. I should be able to manage this on my own) from the experience itself. Children learn more from what you do than what you say, so your resilience—the way they watch you approach adversity—affects theirs.

 

2) Pay attention to your attitudes around setbacks. Many attitudes toward adversity seem like factual statements. Those people are like that. My child will never ….   I’m not the sort of person who ever … . Notice those habitual thoughts, and ask of them, Is it true? Recognize your assumptions and predictions for what they are and see if anything changes when you open to other possibilities.

 

3) Catch yourself with the STOP practice: When feeling off-balance because of a challenging situation, pause. Stop whatever you’re doing; take a few slow breaths; observe what’s going on around you and in your mind; and then pick how to proceed.

 

4) Insert mindful moments into your day to build resilience. These suggestions, adapted from recommendations of the American Psychological Association, provide a framework for shifting perceptions and building resilience:

 

5) Make connections and accept help. Value relationships with close family members and friends, and reach out for support when needed.

 

6) Monitor for mental traps. Whatever your mental icebergs, pause, label them (catastrophizing again), and redirect. For example, if you feel shut down by fear, acknowledge that fact, then refocus on something useful to be done as a first step. If nothing else, I’m calling the pediatrician today and getting a referral. 

 

7) Nurture a positive view of yourself. Catch your inner critic in action, set it aside, and focus on your own strengths instead. Thanks anyway, I wish I’d done it differently but I didn’t. What would be the best thing to do now?

 

8) Aim to accept that change and uncertainty are a part of living. One common misperception that undermines well-being and resilience is fighting with whatever is truly beyond our control. Even when something upsetting happens, separate the experience from a broader expectation that it ‘shouldn’t’ have happened in the first place.

 

9) Develop step-by-step goals and take decisive action. Rather than detaching and wishing stress away, stay proactive. When tasks seem unachievable, ask, What’s one small thing I can accomplish that moves me in the direction I want to go? 

 

10) Take care of yourself. Engage in activities that you enjoy and find relaxing. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed for resilience.

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Perspective Shift Tools and Practices

On this page we explore more mindfulness strategies and shifts to support reducing stress and living with more aliveness and enjoyment. 

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Being in the Present Moment

Being “present” is a way of solo tasking with yourself or another without thinking about anything other than that moment, not even the past or future.

 

So much information goes unnoticed when we are projecting out into the future or getting hung up on something from the past.

 

Remember, your central nervous system only has so much capacity so it is important to be aware of what is taking up most of the space within your system.

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Work/Life Balance

The old corporate culture says we have to work hard, struggle, and sacrifice to create success.

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The alternative is a practical and wise choice to stop the unconscious addiction to stress, overwhelm, struggle and constant hard work to instead focus on a healthy, balanced lifestyle that yields better results.

 

Throughout this Ecosystem of Resilient Wellbeing we go deep into the science behind what stimulates great collaboration, innovation, purpose, and productivity.

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Old corporate culture

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  • Hard work and struggle is the only way to get anywhere

  • Blame and gossip are commonplace

  • Work and life are kept separate (employees show one personality at work and another in life)

  • Stress is a sign of poor leadership, don't talk about it

  • Workplace drama is considered normal and accepted

  • Poor team dynamics create cut throat competition

  • Leaders are more focused on being right instead of listening to what is best for the team/company

  • Unhealthy environments are the norm (lack of healthy food, natural light, fresh air, regular movement)

  • Seriousness of work leads to burnout 

  • Employee turnover, low productivity, and engagement blamed on a generation that doesn't want to work  

 

New alternative culture

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Journaling for Mindful Stress Reduction

For centuries, journaling has been used as a form of self-expression and soul searching.

 

The Immediate Benefits of Journaling

Journaling supports us expressing pent-up feelings of anger or anxiety. It supports us clarifying our thoughts and feelings. By writing about our experiences, we gain valuable self-knowledge. Another benefit of journaling is that often we can come up with solutions to issues by writing about things we want to resolve.

 

Through scientific research, journaling has been shown to provide health benefits:

  • Decreases the symptoms of asthma, arthritis, and other health conditions

  • Improves cognitive functioning

  • Can strengthen immune system response

  • Can counteract many of the negative effects of stress

 

The Long Term Benefits and Potential of Journaling

By journaling regularly you create for yourself a reliable way to express your thoughts and emotions. Through this practice, you become more self-aware. Even after just a few journaling sessions, by re-reading your entries, you may be able to start discovering patterns in your life that you want to shift. Over time, you’ll likely find your level of felt stress decreasing and your level of engagement and aliveness increasing.

 

A Few Ways You Can Journal:

You might find that combining these styles works best for you. 

  • Brain purge journaling. It is often beneficial to alleviate ruminative thoughts and to support peaceful sleep. Purging the brain of any negative thoughts, to-do lists, feelings of being a victim, or wanting to blame someone can help significantly by minimizing the brain spinning and helps regulate your nervous system by getting it out and down on paper so it can be viewed more objectively after rest.

  • Experience Expression and Emotional Release Journaling. In this style of journaling your aim is to express your emotional responses around events from your day. This approach supports you processing your experiences. You might be able to shift into a positive mindset and perspective 

  • Therapeutic Journal Writing is a series of written passages that document the personal events, thoughts, feeling, memories, and perceptions of your journey throughout life. It is a tool for self-exploration and the enhancement of personal development. The intended outcome is creating a felt sense of wholeness.

  • Gratitude Journaling. In this method you list out things you are grateful for. This practice supports you seeing the benefits of experiences and events. Rather than focusing on what’s wrong, you learn to focus on what’s supportive and enlivening for you.

 

A Few Tips for Journaling:

  • Journaling works best when done by hand. In a pinch, digital journaling can work too, but there is just something about the physical act of writing that supports our expressing ourselves fully. Studies have shown that writing by hand helps create a deeper connection for moving through emotions and information through the physical hand/eye coordination of putting pen to paper.

  • Journal writing works best when you believe it will be beneficial for you so imagine that your journaling will be supportive for you. 

  • Forget about trying to do it perfectly. You are writing for yourself, not for someone else to read so don’t worry about making sense for someone else. Focus on going inside yourself and expressing whatever you can about your experience.

  • Other than not doing it, or doing it infrequently, journaling can’t really be done “wrong.”

  • If your hand gets tired, switch to your non-dominant hand and try writing a sentence or two. It’s challenging and supports your creativity!

  • If you find yourself focusing on negatives, consciously shift your perspective to something positive or actionable, like solutions for challenging situations or how you might use a perspective shift during a future stressful event to create a more positive outcome than you did in the past.

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Starting Your Own Journaling Practice

 

Supplies You’ll Need

  1. A notebook dedicated solely to journaling

  2. Something to write with. A pen, pencil, or favorite writing utensil.

  3. A quiet, private, uninterrupted environment to collect your thoughts and write about them in your journal

 

Setting Yourself up for Success

  • Before you start journaling, take a few moments to close your eyes, breathe deeply into your belly, and relax. Hot tea and soft music make support you relaxing.

  • Write the day, month, and year at the top of each journal entry. This will support you when you’re reviewing your journal later on.

  • Write without censoring yourself. Whatever comes to mind, do your best to write it down without editing it. Also, don’t worry about how neatly you write so long as you can read your own writing.

  • Let your thoughts be free-flowing.

 

Instructions for Expressive and Cathartic Journaling

  • Start with the goal of writing for 15-20 minutes three times per week.

  • Write about both stressful and positive events in your life. 

  • Start with the events that cause the most frustration, grief, or tension for you.

  • Ask yourself what emotions arise for you during the stressful events. 

  • Then ask yourself why you feel that way.

  • When ready, start looking for and wondering what solutions and steps you can take toward resolution as well as what you can do in the future to turn the stressful situation into less stressful situations.

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Humor Therapy for Mindful Stress Reduction

Studies show that humor prompts mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. Studies have also shown that there is a strong relationship between good health and good humor. In essence, laughter helps restore physiological homeostasis.

 

Humor is a defense mechanism, yet unlike other defensive strategies, humor can dissolve the walls of our ego rather than reinforce them. Humor is the singular defense mechanism that can simultaneously increase pleasure and reduce pain.

 

While humor remains challenging to define precisely, we all know something funny when we hear or see it.

 

So What is Humor Therapy?

Humor therapy is about living life on the lighter side. It is not meant to nullify or rid you of your anger, fear, or sadness. It is meant to balance out your emotional responses. In fact, though humor isn’t a positive emotion, it can elicit positive emotions. Simply put, humor therapy is a habit of bringing more genuine humor into your life.

 

Types of Humor

Here are a few types of humor. You’ll probably note that some overlap with each other. The therapist who created this list placed them in this particular order because parody offers the highest efficacy for coping with stress while sarcasm offers the lowest. Everything in-between is roughly equal to each other. 

  • Parody

  • Satire

  • Slapstick comedy

  • Absurd/nonsense humor

  • Black humor/Gallows humor

  • Irony

  • Dry Humor and Puns

  • Sarcasm

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Transforming Challenging Feelings

You can use humor to transform the energy of challenging feelings. The ability to laugh at yourself, to acknowledge in a loving way our faults, to exaggerate them in a laughable way can support you. For example, when I feel grumpy I mention to those I am around that I feel grumpy then over exaggerate my grumpiness until it becomes a laughing matter and helps me shift from feeling grumpy.

 

Beware of the Dark Side of Humor—Toxic Sarcasm

Sarcasm is a form of humor that can easily become contempt, creating more drama rather than therapeutic effects. Making fun of people to try and make yourself feel better does not have the beneficial effects. Also, it’s pretty easy to use humor as a way to dance around the real issue instead of being direct and authentic. In this way, humor can be used to mask our true feelings, resulting in our interactions with others being inauthentic.

 

To most effectively use humor as therapy:

  • Take stock of your personal sense of humor and what you find funny then see if you can sharpen your sense of humor. 

  • Note which type(s) of humor you find funniest and make a habit of incorporating more of it into your life.

  • Monitor your high and low moods and how long they last then set about incorporating more humor and positive moods into your life to balance out your emotional world. Remember: emotional wellbeing is about being able to feel the full range of human emotions, both positive and negative.

 

Here’s a few ways you can improve your sense of humor:

  1. Learn not to take life too seriously. 

  2. Learn to laugh at your mistakes.

  3. Find at least one humorous thing a day.

  4. Actively work to improve your imagination and creativity. You can do this by reading more books rather than watching television; write stories, fables, or poems; play with children go exploring and do something completely new; create something like a new dish or start a new hobby

  5. Learn to hyper exaggerate when describing a situation or story.

  6. Build a humor library. Find things you find funny and have them ready to go to. These can be humorous videos, books or anything that brings a smile to your face. They can also be places you go like a comedy club or watching a movie.

  7. Find some friends you can turn to when you need to be uplifted by humor. Call up one of those friends and request a “humor lift.”

  8. Improve your self esteem. As you do, you’ll find more things funny and fewer things deadly serious.

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Art Therapy

Art, like journaling, can be an expressive and clarifying form of therapy. For thousands of years we humans have created art to express what is inside us.

 

The idea with art therapy is that many of our ideas, thoughts, feelings, and insights can not be fully articulated through words. Artistic expression offers us the opportunity to engage in more than just words. Consider how when you listen to a piece of instrumental music you can experience emotions and movements.

 

You do not need to consider yourself artistic or have been given praise for your artistic abilities to experience the benefits of art therapy. The mere act of expressing artistically—regardless of what the outcome is—is the goal, not creating a beautiful, timeless piece of art that will hang in a gallery.

 

Materials

You’re the artist so you can use any materials you choose. Common materials used in art therapy settings include markers, crayons, and pastels. You might think pens or pencils would be ideal, but consider other options too. For example, crayons and chalk can bring out the child-like parts of you. Some markers have a fine tip on one end and a blue one on the other, allowing you more range of expression. You could also use modeling clay or finger paints.

 

For drawings and paintings, consider using a piece of paper that is larger than standard printer paper. It will offer more space for you expression. 

 

Themes to Explore

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  1. Draw something that represents you (this could be you, a symbol, a hobby, or something else). 

  2. Draw two fantasy animals. 

  3. Close your eyes, draw a line on the paper, open your eyes and finish what you started.

 

Healing Images

  1. Draw yourself in a state of perfect health.

  2. Draw a picture of a part of your body that feels like it needs special or extra attention. Then, on the other side of the paper or on another paper, draw the same part of your body in perfect health and feeling great.

 

Mental Images

  1. Draw a peaceful image

  2. Draw how you feel right now.

  3. Draw a dream image.

 

Clearing Artistic Roadblocks

Many people believe they are not “artistic.” It’s just a belief and not reflective of what we are actually capable of creating. By stepping out of judging or comparing your own art to other’s art you can release yourself from the confines of the false belief that you are not artistic. Besides, the art is for your expression and not for others to consume or judge—it’s not meant to look great or even appealing, it’s meant to be expressive and a reflection of your internal world. If it looks good too, that’s bonus!

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Behavior Modification

Consciously catching behaviors we want to modify and using perspective shifts as tool to create the outcomes we really want.

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Below is an introduction to behavioral modification techniques and a way you can change habits and behaviors in your own life.

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